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Coyote Musings
Coyote handsome
his coat the same brown
as the dust from which he rises


What is the sound of one hand slapping Schroedinger's cat?


The Quantum Duck goes "quark, quark."

September 2010
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Missing Left Sock Beast [userpic]
I know we're all probably getting tired of boobs

(Take the title as you wish.)

Because some people seem to have missed this fact, at the first con there were no "opt-in" or "opt-out" buttons, and theferret admits that strange women were approached largely based on how they were dressed. It turns out that the scantily-clad Princess was a friend of a friend, so I'm not counting her in that comment, but the requests to touch boobs* breasts or other body parts were not limited to the friend group nor those who were wearing buttons.

However: I agree with this comment, and am once again reposing my own from elseJournal having finally nailed my thoughts down to roughly a sentence:

It's the suggestion that anyone, anywhere, should be able to question my right to my bodily integrity because it will make the world a happier healthier place with butterflies and Bambi and bunnies ejaculating rainbows that got my hackles up, I think.

Instead of making cons a place where you have to explicitly wear a button to tell people you're not interested in even being asked about being touched, how about we work toward making a world where no one has the right to critique your body or invade your personal space, regardless of gender, without your permission.

"My Body, My Choice," isn't just about abortion.

*Whether or not we're getting tired of boobs, I'm getting tired of the word. Although it does remind me of one of my favorite (sexist) jokes (as rendered in the song "Bad Jokes" from the A Prairie Home Companion Movie:

When God created woman, he gave her not two breasts but three,
when the middle breast got in the way, God performed surgery.
Woman stood before God, the middle breast in hand,
said, "What shall we do with the useless boob?" and God created Man.

I can't help myself. I had to check.

Yep. It made OTF_Wank. (Not fandom_wank because, well, not fandom.)


Ole, how's that toilet brush, the one you got from the neighbors?
Ole said, "it works pretty good, but I prefer toilet paper."

You're very welcome, and you didn't need the disclaimer because I'm willing to bet you look lovely even desheveled. ;) I just thought that, given the discussion, asking permission or at least forgiveness for drawing attention to your appearance was appropriate.

Woody Harrelson and John C. Reilly were a surprisingly awesome Dusty and Lefty. As in, I'd watch a movie about their cowboy adventures readily, along with Kevin Kline as Guy Noir. That's probably not going to happen, considering how poorly the movie did.

Actually, now that I think about it, "A Prairie Home Companion" would probably be a good movie to discuss regarding commenting on people's appearances. There are all the references made to Maya Rudolph's stage manager about her pregnancy and her appearance/attractiveness. Dusty also says something to Lefty about losing twenty-five pounds of ugly fat by cutting off his head. And all those "rude songs" the two sing -- "I'll show you my moonshine if you show me your jugs", for example.

Whoa. I've seen that movie way too many times.

It's all good. :D I figure by placing my picture on the internet, I'm exposing my appearance to comment. If it's from a friend or not meant maliciously, I don't care. Just by being alive and interacting with society, I'm opening myself for people to judge. I don't think there will ever be a time in the future where people stop making internal judgments about people's appearance. That doesn't mean it's a good thing, just that it will continue to happen. The important part is that people don't act on those judgments in a harmful or presumptuous way. Like grabbing a stranger's boob, which is both harmful and presumptuous.